she got tricks in the stash, stacking up the cash; fast when it comes to the gas, by no means average

I’m feeling a bit guilty for being a bit of a shop-a-holic lately, but after reining in my shopping habits for the past few months, my aesthetic inclinations could be tamed no longer! Although now I’ve got to stop. It’s funny how our views of money changes with age. We felt rich at primary school if we had a gold coin to go to the dairy with, and later $20 notes were a big deal. These days, who knows… I remember my first “big” sartorial purchase as if it was only yesterday – a $60 pair of Levi’s jeans that Mum bought me. At the time $60 was like ohmygod-expensive and I thanked mum endlessly and promised I would wear them until they wore out or I grew out of them – whichever came first. Unfortunately I grew out of them too quickly since I was only ten at the time, but by then the dark denim had already faded at lot, especially at the knees, and my sister got a beautifully worn in pair of jeans (that sounds really mean, but jeans are nice when worn in!). I didn’t convert to skirts and dresses until I was 18, so before then, jeans were pretty much a staple. Anyway, the main thing about buying those jeans was the motto my mum’s instilled in me – sometimes it’s worth investing a bit more money (on anything I guess, but in this instance, clothing) when you know you are buying a high-quality piece that you will treasure and wear (or use) over and over and over again. Even though this piece of advice has led me to buy some garments and shoes at outrageous prices, excluding dresses that were for special occasions, I have definitely gotten my money’s worth on everything pricey that I’ve bought. For example, I wore my Mooks jacket for almost a year and a half straight, and those aqua patent Dr Martens of mine have been worn to pieces in seven countries, if you will allow me to count Hong Kong.

This leads me to the two big things I bought last week. A Stolen Girlfriends Club dress, and a pair of beautiful Beau Coops boots. I was a bit chuffed that the size 8 dress had sold out just as I went to buy it, but the size 10 fits like a dream anyway, so all is well. My trick to justifying spending so much on a summery dress is that I had bought a voucher for SGC for a hundred dollars off the voucher value, and that it will have a decent re-sell value. Haven’t taken any photos of the boots yet, but here is the dress. SGC definitely package their products well, and I really like the ribbon that it came with. My only complaint is, does such a little dress need to come in such a hefty box?! Poor couriers’ vans must fill up pretty quickly! Needless to say, I have lived in that dress since Thursday and it is Sunday now; I’ve already worn it to a birthday barbecue, to uni and to coax my sick cat out from under the backdoor steps!

I am not a big fan of what people call “selfie” photos, but I can’t be bothered putting it back on, so these were the pics I took to show the boy the dress. It’s also gotten seals of approval from both Mum and the boy’s mother, and compliments galore, so surely I can’t really go wrong with living in it all summer.

The boots and my mixed views on wearing heels in various places will be discussed in the next post. But for now – has anyone ever joined and/or used one of those sale “groups” on facebook? I’ve been using one a fair bit recently, and it’s been a mixed experience in terms of selling and buying clothes. Here is a list of observations and thoughts that arise on a daily basis with this group:

  • I cringe every time someone says “[item of clothing] brought of [store/place/person]”. It always makes me do a double-take and I think, goodness, it’s bad enough that people don’t understand the difference between “bought” and “brought”, but how the heck do they mistake “off” for “of”?! Even “bought of” wouldn’t sound anywhere near correct… It’s really sad when the one-person-per-day who correctly says “bought” makes me happy and restores some faith in the future of female intellect in this country.
  • I’m guilty of this myself, but it is absolutely astonishing how many people sell things that have “never been worn” or have only been worn once. I’m sure most females in first-world, privileged positions have done this at least once and it begs me to question – when will women ever cease succumbing to the “impulse buy” or buying things just to wear on one occasion? How many times have we heard females we know utter words such as “I need [a dress/shoes] for [occasion]”? It’s crazy. And yet we keep doing this.
  • Some people sell really high quality, designer clothing (or shoes) at cut-throat prices, yet on the flip-side, others are trying to sell chain-store, boring and mediocre items for not-so-cheap prices. I would much rather my real suede shoes from Zara (I know not “designer” but still high quality) keep sitting in a shoebox instead of being sold for $20, sorry.
  • There are certain trends that course through this group. Namely, the SGC Acid Doll dress, the SGC garden print t-shirt dress, Karen Walker hydrangea shirt/dress and the Ksubi Baddies singlets. Each trend began when someone posted said item for sale, and ever since, several other girls have made posts that say “Looking for [aforementioned item]” with variations of “please please please” or “will pay good $$$”. This is followed by bundles of other girls posting these same items for sale, and more often than not, intense bidding wars take place, followed by other people saying “also looking for this!” – crazy, right?! I find this incredibly bizarre because all of these things have been sold in stores and online for up to a year, and I know that they are being sold at lower prices on this facebook group, but the way people behave it sounds as if they’d never heard of such things before until now. I really do not understand why people would be willing to pay over a hundred dollars for items that have (sometimes, but not always) been shrunk, faded or have peeled prints…
  • Slightly relevant to the above point, I actually own the Acid Doll dress myself. The boy’s youngest sister had told me the other night that the middle sister wondered whether I purposely frame it into the background when I post photos of things I’m selling. Aside from snorting a “no, my room is small and there is nowhere else to hang it without getting it crushed!”, it’s actually quite ironic that she pointed this out – because I’m REALLY sick of people asking whether or not I am selling it! Even if it’s just the vaguest blur of colour in the background, I have gotten handfuls of people asking if I happen to be selling it. I don’t understand why logic doesn’t prevail when I have already told one person “no, otherwise I would be listing it”, and someone else comes along and asks the same thing, in the comment immediately after. I thought the idea of threaded comments were created so that people could see the progression of discussion. Clearly this has not caught on with everyone.

Surely other people have had similar experiences too?

I know it’s been a long time, but I’m too lazy to to post a playlist right now, plus we have just acquired a very large playlist of new music I’m trying to sift through, so it would be a mess… but go and listen to Chet Faker here and click through to his Soundcloud as well. I had said to the boy a week or two before the Laneway lineup was announced that we ought to track down a gig of his when we are in Melbourne, and what do you know, turns out Laneway agreed with me.

10 Comments

  1. Elaine October 15, 2012

    AMEN to… ALL of this. Jeans and a T-Shirt from Threadless (back in the day when they actually printed on American Apparel) were my staples back in highschool. I still haven’t gotten into the hang of skirts and dresses at age 23, so it’s usually tights and a flowy top of some sort. I completely agree with spending more for quality items – sunglasses in particular. And they just LOOK and feel better too! I also recently just sold a couple of items on eBay that still had tags on them. Guilty! Love the dress, the brightness and playful cut (and frills!) are totally great for spring and the incoming summer.

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  2. Charlotte October 18, 2012

    I’ve also splurged a little bit this month and bought another winter coat, even though I wasn’t exactly planning on getting another one. It called out to me. Your playsuit is so nice, a definite worthy investment x

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  3. Kristi October 18, 2012

    Haha, I’m still here :) I just haven’t been as active after I accidentally deleted my music blog D: I’m gonna make a comeback. I’m just a bit discouraged is all :(

    Ugh, I have a terrible online shopping habit. I have long wishlists on several sites so I always end up spending money every month or so on various articles of clothing . . . and somehow I never feel like I have enough.
    I never really started wearing skirts or dresses until the past year. I’m not a very girly girl though so I can’t stand heels! I actually hate the way they look. I prefer flats or wedges.

    Anyway enough about that! I’m going to check out the artist you linked. :)

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  4. Manda October 21, 2012

    Since transitioning from school to working full-time I’ve invested in a few quality pieces (namely work appropriate dresses, as I’ve never really been a dress girl until recently). My weaknesses are shoes; I never seem to feel I have enough (although my closet says otherwise). I never throw out a pair of shoes until I’ve worn them out straight through, though. I DO wear all of them – it’s just sometimes hard to find an occasion to wear some of them!

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  5. Lolo October 23, 2012

    Yeah I agree with you…..our limits with money rise as we age hahaha.

    I haven’t had a chance to go to go shopping in a long while but I tend to not crave shopping like I hear some of my friends say, but i’ll go without shopping for some time until I realize “ohh i need a new pair of pants” for example. Then I’ll walk around the store and if my eye catches something else I might get it~ I’m gonna try to be the same way when I graduate and start working full time (try my best)!!!

    The dress looks really cute on you, btw~ Very happy pattern~

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  6. Michelle October 24, 2012

    My mom used to – and still does – say to me that some things are worth the investment, My friends lecture me about the how I am willing to pay a lot of money on a simple item but they forget that I work and it really is worth it – the re-wear value and quality.

    As we get older, things get more expensive but really in all honesty it’s relative to how much we earn too… if I earn peanuts, I’m not going to purchase designer labels – likewise how fussy, wealthy people would not want to buy cheap quality items.

    I absolutely adore your dress! IT IS SO PRETTY! Very Summery and looks lovely on you! :D

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  7. Stephanie October 27, 2012

    Is it just me, or do lots of girls transition into wearing dresses at around age 20? I did it too, and am disappointed with my wardrobe because it’s mostly t-shirts and jeans and I don’t know what to do with all the t-shirts. Oh well. By the way, your dress looks fabulous!

    I have never seen one of those groups that you describe, and after reading your post, have no desire to join one of them. But women have their obsession with clothing and trends and men have their own obsessions that are equally bad financially. You are doing the right thing with your designer clothing, though. And by “right thing”, I mean, “exactly what I’d do”. :P

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  8. Amanda October 27, 2012

    Haha, Stephanie I think the main reason I got into dresses was because I grew hips/thighs and felt that dresses were more flattering than skinny jeans xD

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  9. LIv October 28, 2012

    I’m going to agree with Stephanie. I am 20 this year and bought 5x more dresses than I previously had. I think at age 20 you grow out of whatever style you had as a teen because attention-seeking isn’t so important anymore.

    My views of money has not changed with age. I have OCPD so spending money will always make me think – if I saved this, how much could I save over time? I’m not sure how much NZ$ is to USD, but $60 for Levi’s jeans sounds outrageous, although I always purchase mine at outlets where it’s cheaper.

    Selfie photos = when you’re too lazy to set up your tripod. :P

    I can’t find the font I used on my blog (Helvetica Neue Light) in my computer, so I tried making it slightly bigger while not messing up things. Does it look better now? I checked it on my Windows netbook and thought it was okay, though not as great as it looks on my Mac computers and HTC Android phone.

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  10. […] Just thought I’d post a couple of pictures to show how much I’ve really been living in that dress I talked about – I’ve worn it to class, fancy dinner, to do a 21st birthday speech in, and the other day I […]

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